Saturday, April 23, 2011

The "sugar" holidays

Yep, I'm going to take the liberty and rename all of them.....starting with tomorrow.  It's....
Candy easter
Pie 4th of July
Candy halloween
Cake thanksgiving
Candy christmas
Cake birthday
Alcohol new year's eve

Is there any "holiday" not related to having something sweet???  Maybe I should retitle all of these as diabetes hell holidays?  :o)

Not to mention that we get to have 8 or 9 birthdays per year with the grandkids, and maybe 2 or 3 of each holiday event considering who is where and when.

Oh, and you think my non-compliant diabetic husband is going to NOT eat something sweet?  Sigh!

I'm still trying to figure out which holiday is the worst and I do believe it is the christmas one as it seems to be the longest.

I no longer celebrate any of the holidays here in our house.  I refuse to buy candy or cake or pie.  But there's no end to the supply others will set out for him.....and they all know he is a diabetic who can't control what he eats!

Just my rant this morning!!!

As for the comments from yesterday about getting him in for a second consult...  Remember, this is a guy who will go 2 years without seeing any doctor.  The only reason he is going right now is they are all labeled "post op".  The one year visits will still be "post op" so he will go to those.  He is not about to get a second opinion.  The one shot we had is all I will ever get out of him.  He told the cardiologist that he does not want to take meds for depression and she did not argue with him (but then she doesn't know him either - first time to see her).

That's what this is all about - living with a non-compliant diabetic. OK, a non-compliant non- healthy person because he would be this way about anything that went wrong with him, diabetes or not.  Just makes it a little bit more difficult since he's had his diabetes so long and so many things seem to be going wrong right now.

My mantra - one day at a time, on step at a time.


Friday, April 22, 2011

Cardio visit

Remember we went to the family doc over him being so tired and he said to ask the nephrologist....who said to ask the cardiologist....who is on sabbatical, so we saw someone new who doesn't even know about everything he just went through.

I have never been so frustrated and he is beyond upset.

No answers.

Well, the consensus answer is that he should wait a YEAR and see if he is any better.

He has slept almost all day and all night since
Wednesday. He's also cold. Really cold. I got blankets out as if we turn up the heat I will melt!!

No one wants to do labs for 2 more months.

I'm teaching again tomorrow, so I'll have a great day!,


Wednesday, April 20, 2011

A happy wife makes a happy husband"

Just got back from mom's.  Had a great time.  My youngest sister is a riot.  She has a motto:

"A happy wife makes a happy husband and that makes a happy life"!!!

I think I'm going to print that out, frame it, post it in several locations throughout the house.

Do you think he might get the message?  And I will be a happy wife if he becomes a compliant diabetic!

My sister really is that way.  She's sister # 3.  Sis # 2 had been to see her this past weekend.  Hubby of Sis # 2 says to boyfriend of Sis # 3, "don't sell your snowmobiles.....we need to take a trip together!"

Sis # 3 turns to Sis # 2 and says, "how about you and I go to Las Vegas the same time?"

Boyfriend of sis # 3 turns to husband of sis # 2 and says, "I will sell my snowmobiles!"

He gets it!  And he's not married to her (but they are living together).  He understands the concept that if he keeps her happy, he will be happy!!!  OK, I also think that he didn't want her going off partying in Las Vegas!  But he gets it!

I think I'm going to start a training program for my husband and use this "new" logo a little more often around here!

Sis # 3 also has this sign in her kitchen:  "I cook 3 meals:  leftover, microwave and take out!"

The sign in my kitchen says, "I have a kitchen because it came with the house!"


We're off to see his cardiologist.  Will post that visit tonight.

DW - wanting to be a happy wife with a happy life!

Sunday, April 17, 2011

Welcome Sar!

Sar has joined the blogging circle, I've added her blog to the links over on the right.

Here's what she wrote:

I am also married to a noncompliant diabetic who has the complication of gastroparesis. He has constant stomach problems and needs multiple medications and care diet which he refuses to comply with.

he is needle phobic and refuses to inject himself. i am trapped having to be with him to inject hima and get no help or understanding from the medical establishment.

He rages and is depressed and has terrible anxiety. he can not or will not work. He has not worked for 10 years and I have to do it all.

I have been married to him for almost 40 years.

This sisterhood has saved my sanity. I know that I am not alone.
Thank you and keep on blogging we need you.

I think you may be my hero!  How on earth have you managed 40 years with a needle-phobic non-compliant diabetic????? I know - just one minute at a time, huh?  

I popped over to read your blog. And I have a confession to make.  Two of my other girlfriends and I find great "therapy" when we get together by talking about the "book" we are going to write "one day". The title is going to be "Death by chocolate and other fine things."  One of the gals has a husband who has really severe heart problems and he eats steak and french fries - everything he's not supposed to eat.  The other girlfriend's husband has liver cancer and will not give up beer.  And then there's my hubby who today, ate an entire cinnamon pizza that HE ordered!  So, you see, it's not just diabetics who are non-compliant.  The 3 of us have decided when it gets really bad, we ae going to start feeding them sugar, fried foods and beer and speed up the process.  Now, don't get me wrong.....this is simply a joke that helps each of us get through the moment.  But I swear, I have some moments when I think it's a pretty good idea!
I loved your voodoo economics blog.  Absolutely excellent!  Thank you!  I thought your were writing about me. It's all so utterly, completely true.  Everything you write has or is happening to us. 
My last blog was about marrying for health insurance.  I think the biggest shock of my life was when I sat down and figured out how much hubbys medical bills out of pocket were each month....and I think we have pretty good insurance.  I was astounded. Then I was so pissed off.  All that money for him and like you said, I give up everything. My sister trims my hair.  I do my own nails.  I buy my clothes at thrift stores.  I can't tell you when we got new sheets or towels.  The one thing I will "splurge" on is my shoes.  OK, nothing fancy.  I usually by Merrels or Asic Gels.  But I had a bone spur about 10 years ago and once I got that cleared up, I simply will not let my feet go again.  But I have not bought a new pair of shoes in 2 years.  Sigh.  I just buy new insoles these days.
I hope you will continue to write about your experiences. I think it helps each of us to feel connected, and not so alone.  
I've set up a block over on the right where anyone can click and email me directly.  Of course, it's an anonymous yahoo email that I continue to forget to check.  I will try to do better!

So, aside from downing an entire cinnamon sugar pizza today, he slept over half the day. Said he had nightmares last night in which he was dead.  Interesting.  I wonder what drug is causing all the nightmares - they seem to be increasing.  So he doesn't sleep at night, but sleeps all day.  

I am taking a mini bread now that he can drive. I haven't been to see my mom since December, so I'm off to visit her the next couple of days.  It's only 3 hours away and I will get to visit my youngest sister as well.  Will be a great escape from all this!