Saturday, March 17, 2012


JSmith wrote:

I would like to make some observations. So your going to have to take care of 2 ppl instead of one? Mom must be in her 80's.. I hope and will pray that you do find a nice place ( with 2 bathrooms). Personally I would move to seattle or somewhere on the west coast (beach front). Where locals dont know what snow is... you know it does not hurt to look around, you might find a great deal.
Thanks, JS.

Actually, the way I'm looking at this, I'll have way less work and more diversions!!!  I have 2 sisters living close to mom, and they will be there to help me as well.  When I need to catch a breather, I can pop over to visit any/all of them.  I've already found a small cottage I really like.  3 bed/2bath and walking distance to mom's retirement home.  (no gas!)

Funny, one of the places hubby always wanted to live was up in the NW.  We have visited there often as his son used to live up there.  I'd love to live on a houseboat!  Now, that would force us to downsize!!  LOL!!!  I used to live near the ocean - at least I had an ocean view - and it was wonderful!  But for us, being close to family is what's important these days.

Things are going quite well.  The house is showing like crazy.  We sold his truck.  We do not need 3 vehicles!  In fact, we are going to try to get down to just 1 and then after the move, maybe by a small car just for running errands.  I think with gas going up more and more will be doing the same thing.

I'm continuing to pack like crazy.  We packed up most of his office yesterday and need to finish that today.  After another showing this morning!  The pace is keeping his glucose high.  But he is scheduling another round of doctor's visits.  And I think we just keep on this path, packing, downsizing, sorting...until the house sells and we will then hire someone to move us out.

I'm planning on taking a long break once we are moved.  We will have earned it, that's for sure!!!

For now, he is doing just fine.  He got over the denial/anger and is moving on to putting the pieces together, making plans for the future.  I never thought we would be moving from this house and I am excited to get us downsized and into a one level before it's "too late".


Wednesday, March 14, 2012

Moving along

We listed the house today. Have started packing, sorting, downsizing. Put the horrible awful, jacked up odd-road truck up for sale. yeah!!! Scares me to death to ride in it when his sugars are normal!!!

He's depressed. Refusing to contact his doctors. Wants to die.

I'm being the ever optimistic wife, cheering him on, reassuring him, telling him it will be ok. Which is exhausting. I don't know how long I can do this, but I am taking it one hour at a time, hoping to progress back to one day at a time.

It's also no problem keeping so busy sorting thru stuff. I'd love nothing better than for the house to sell in a week....I'd call a goodwill truck to come get everything!!

We have agreed to buy a tiny cottage close enough to mom so we can help her out. It will mean all new doctors and perhaps a new opinion might be a good change.

Hubby hates moving more than anything in life. So he isn't doing much to make this easy. But if he isn't going to work, we sure can't afford to live here!!!

If he stays this depressed and doesn't get help, how long will he survive?

He finally called his son tonight and told him. The 28 year old's, why don't you get another job? I know his only concern is that the lavish gifts will end. And they will!!! It upset me that he didn't think that hid dad deserved to retire!!

Pray that the house sells quickly so we can get moved before the summer heat sets in.