Tuesday, January 03, 2012
My nightmare. We have 2 tiny dogs that go in a crate at night between our beds. For the last 3 years, I have gotten up and taken them out to potty anywhere between 5 and 7 am. Last night they started scratching their crate and whimpering at 2 am. I ignored them. I just think that it's time that he take care of them. Note, I have never had indoor pets in my life until I married him.
So, at 3 am, I decide I have to get up and take them out to prevent an accident. So I turned the light on. I never do that, but yes, I was mad and felt that if I had to wake up, go downstairs, wait til they got done, and get them back inside, he could wake up, too.
Well, he simply went ballistic. And since we are eating healthy, I know he is going low as he is not adjusting his insulin downwards for fewer carbs. He was just screaming his head off. And I very quietly said that he was free to take them out if he wanted. ha ha! Of course that's not what he wants. He wants me to do it all for him.
And after 3 years of doing everything for him, I'm sorry, but I'm done.
Tonight, I'll sleep in the guest bedroom as I need a good night's sleep He will simply have to contend with the dogs and if they pee in the crate, I will let him do the laundry for that as well.
Over the past few months I've come to realize that I'm enabling him in so many areas. I set the thermostat to 60 degrees to help save on heat costs and I walk around half sick because it's so cold. Today I raised it to 67 degrees. I run up and down the stairs at a whim to get him whatever he needs - that's stopping. I take the dogs out to go potty all the time - well, I will still do it in the day, but not at night any more. The arthritis is growing in my hips and he needs to realize just how much it hurts me to go up and down the stairs.
I think 2012 is going to be about change. Maybe more than I want.....but this is a start. Hopefully he will get on board before it's too late!
Posted by Diabeteswife at 7:54 PM