When do you walk away?

it's no longer "if".....it's now "when".

I'm not sure I can handle his layoff. Not with sugar lows, stupid decisions, age 10 behaviors and so on.

We had 3 vehicles.  An off wheel 4x4 Ford that is jacked up and he could no longer get into....it's sold.

A 2001 Camaro SS convertible - his 50th birthday gift to himself - so low to the ground he can no longer get into it.  So it's on the market.

And a 2002 Ford Escape - which has been my car all these years.  We decided to keep it because whenever he has surgery - it's the car he can get into.  So we took the money from the truck and had the engine fixed yesterday.

This morning, I asked him to take it to BigO and price new tires and a battery. I specifically used the word "price".  But he got 4 brand new top of the line tires - $1000.

He came home and I was just a little pissed.  But I very calmly asked him, "When do you want to make the change from a PF Changs lifestyle to a McDonald's, maybe, if they have a coupon style?"

He blew up. I expected it.  But we have to get over this hurdle and I don't know how to do it.  His gross pay was $140K with bonuses taking it as high as $198 in a year.  His retirement pay will be a gross of $21,588.  His last check is next Wednesday.  I know he is not thinking.  I know he is in denial.  But when does the spending stop???  We need every penny that we don't absolutely have to spend to get us moved to a smaller place.

And I'm pretty sure he was low this morning.  No breakfast. Nothing to eat since about 6 pm last night.

Yes, it's my fault that I asked him to go price tires.  But seriously?  Do I have to do everything myself?  In my world, "price tires" means you get an estimate, then you go to another tire store and get an estimate, you price around.  In his world, I guess it means go buy them and get them put on....and buy the very most expensive set you can get.....that "covers" price.

OK - you gotta laugh sometimes.  What a complete idiot?  And yes, I love him, but I just don't know if I can stick around and endure the idiot in him!!!  He is going to drive me to a complete poor house in less than a week!!!

And the outburst was horrendous.  Him ranting, screaming, flailing his arms, coming at me then backing away and just completely babbling about nothing.  I know you know exactly what I'm talking about.  Half of what he said made no sense at all.  I wonder if that's not a "power trip" tactic....get me completely confused so I have no idea at all what the real conversation is??   He threatened to leave, he walked out the door, he came back, he went to his office and started working. Mind you, it was 10:30 am and he had not worked at all yet today.....and he wonders why he was laid off????

It's another rollercoaster day here....but if he doesn't wake up and realize that he is going to have about $1200 a month to live on.....what is he going to do???

DW