Here we are, about a thousand miles apart. Each of grieving the loss of our own mom without the support of each other. Hubby got mad because he took something I said the wrong way...so he decided we should get a divorce. Was that a sugar low? How can I tell? I'm here, not there. I have no idea if he is doing what he needs to do to keep his sugars in control. I imagine not.
I went to grief counseling. Maybe good ideas. I called him and told him what they said. He agreed with everything. This was 6 hours later. We're his levels back in control? Within 6 hours he changed from getting divorced to loving me and staying together.
I have learned to give him time when stuff like this happens.
I did NOT need this today!! In fact, I don't ever need it!!
Perhaps he finally gets it that we both have to grieve and it is going to be in different ways, at different speeds, and different processes? I suggested to him that he needs to fly home and give his dad a few days alone so his dad can start to grieve. He said maybe. I know he is scared to death his dad will die alone.
We may be apart awhile. The longer I am here, the more he schedules for me to do. And I'm fine with that because its all stuff that has to be done.
And I think I need some space and time alone to grieve my loss.
Hopefully, he will keep his promise to me not to threaten divorce every time he gets upset over something I say. I sure hope tomorrow is a better day. I've had my stress quota for the month already!
DW
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Why are you STAYING with this man? I've been rooting for you to leave since I started reading you now years ago. Here's your chance.
First off I would like to say how sorry I am for your loss of your mother and mother in law. I just found your blog today and read 15-20 entries. I am overwhelmed yet comforted that there are other wives out there dealing with the same things that I am.
I am 27 years old living and engaged ( for 3 years, he won't marry me) with a 41 year old Type2 diabetic. Without me the doctors told me he would have died. ( Me pushing him to go to the doctor for 6months!)
I cry almost every day wondering what I am doing wrong. Why is he so miserable? I try to do everything I can to aid his health. He has blood clots, Gout, IBS, and high blood pressure. I have done what you have raid the house, cook diabetic meals, even bring food during the day to his work!
Thank you for taking the time to write this blog. I will try to learn from your experiences and take comfort in knowing I am not alone. :)
xx-Ashleigh
I am sorry you had a rough day. I hope your husband is doing okay. It can be hard to find a healthy living with diabetes especially when you are far away from him. Do you know how he is doing lately? My husband also has diabetes, so I have a lot of experience if you need any help. Thank you for posting this blog.
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