Thursday, September 19, 2013

I'm in hell and don't know which way out!

Yes, it really is that bad.  I flew to meet him last Saturday and on the drive from the airport to the hotel, he started in arguing with me.  Manipulating me.  He wanted me to sit in the hotel room and babysit the dogs while he, his dad and brother went to a football game.  I had already told him I was not going to do that.  But he managed to get his dad and brother in on the act and I stayed.  I was so pissed off.  Still am.  But it has been like that almost non-stop since Saturday about one thing or another.

He has played the "I forgot" card, the "that's not what I heard" card, the "I'm sorry, I didn't hear that" name it, he's played it.  This morning was a major blow out.  We drove home yesterday. He ate at 6:30 am and 11:30 am, then refused to eat after that.  Of course he crashed!  The apologized this morning.

Absolutely nothing has changed.  I was so pleased with all the changes I've made in the house and he merely felt threatened by them.  He wants everything back the way it is, but he's going back to his dad's, not staying here.

I'm exhausted already and can't wait for him to leave, but he's here for a whole week.  Sad, huh?



Anonymous said...

sounds absolutely miserable.
but there is a silver lining! you have no doubt that you have taken the right path...he has not changed (maybe become more abusive) while you have discovered a pleasant lifestyle that doesn't put you in the position of victim.

hang in there, he will leave soon. when you do something for him, its grace. when he leaves it is your own once again...

Deb said...

I hope you cut the tie completely, I really do.

I can't imagine you going back to your ''non life'' with this person.