Friday, August 19, 2011

Hey Tom's wife - I'm happier again! LOL!

I'm back with 2 of my sisters and we are just having so much fun.  I made the choice to come here and not go with him to his nephrologist.  I'm glad I did.  I had a chat with hubby before I left and sort of asked him to be strong and no allow them to stop the meds that control his bladder.  He was.  They didn't stop it.  His blood pressure is starting to come down.  The headaches are starting to give him some relief.  The flatulence on the other hand.....still a huge problem as he is being kept awake all night long with stomach problems.

I did give him the list of complications to show to the doc, but he didn't do it.  Do you know what he said? He asked if there was any good news on it and I said, "no", and he said, "well, then, I don't want to read it."

I nearly fell over.  But then that's sort of how he is about his diabetes.  He only wants to believe the good side of it.

And remember how angry I used to get because he would tell people that he didn't have a blood pressure problem?  Well, I do think that's behind us seeing as how he needs FOUR medications to get it down.

All I can do is shake my head.  But I am turning this all back over to him.  He can pick and choose what he wants to do.  My life isn't over just yet, so I'm moving forward doing things I want to do.  And for the present time, that's exactly where I need to be so I can get myself well because I know that it is going to be nothing but rugged mountains in the days and months ahead of us.



Anonymous said...

good for you! you are awesome!

Lilly said...

Good decision on your part. Sometimes, we truly have to let go to maintain our own sense of well-being and sanity.

As for hubby not wanting to read or share your list: if he wants to continue living in denial, there isn't much you can do to make him change.