Today at lunch, he said that he is going to call his parents this evening and see if they will consider moving here. What the heck???
They are 78 years old. With more physical problems that I can begin to list. His dad is a diabetic. His mom is blind in one eye....and I KNOW they need help. But he is not even able to take care of himself.....why does he want them to move here???
I know he feels guilty about not seeing them. It's a 15 hour drive to their house. Far away enough that this is a different climate and altitude from what they are used to.
They absolutely hate me beyond words....for a multitude of reasons.....the main one being that I won't move to where they live!
This may be a ploy to keep from selling this house and moving 3 hours from here to help take care of my mom. If I tell him he can't move his parents here, then he can refuse to move closer to my mom. So, I suggested that we buy a duplex close to my mom and move his parents into the other half. Well....that would never work as it's too far from his grandkids.
The grandkids that he sees twice a year!
He is absolutely not thinking this one through. I'm praying that his parents tell him they won't move. If they agree, it will be the end of this marriage for sure. I have visions of "Everybody Loves Raymond" if they agree to move! LOLOL!!!
I suppose it could be a good thing. If they agree to move here, then I will just up and move to where my mom lives using the same excuse....it's time I take care of her. She's 3 years older than his parents and deserves our help much more than they do. If he won't move all of us to her town....I see no reason to stay put.
But I'm sure he didn't hear any of that in our conversation today! So all I can do is pray they tell him "no".
I even asked him what would happen if he took a turn for the worse and couldn't help them. He said it would be no worse for them than where they are now. Really? They have lived in their home for over 40 years and he wants to uproot them, move them all this distance, and thinks it will be no worse for them???
Proof he's not really thinking about anyone except himself at this point.
DW - exhausted
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Sunday, November 20, 2011
Saturday, November 12, 2011
I'm so sleep deprived
Awake at 2 am this morning as he was up sick.
Awake at 3:30 am yesterday morning as he was up sick.
It's been a repeat every day this past week.
And he is refusing to go get labs done. He won't call his doctor. He is sick to his stomach, diarrhea (and I'm so tired of cleaning toilets!) and nothing sounds good to eat. Except potato chips. :o)
Pretty certain the neuropathy has found it's way to his intestines. But of course since he won't go to the doc, we don't know.
I really try to be supportive. It's so hard.
I really try to show compassion. But when he refuses to take care of himself and now he refuses to call the doctor, it's even harder.
And I know I'm just exhausted. I try to catch little naps during the day when I can. But it's not the same. I sleep more on the sofa than I do in my bed.
And my own pain has returned. I'm sure it's because I'm not getting enough sleep. I am trying to stay as active as I can, but I hurt so bad. Today I managed to prune the apple tree, cut numerous limbs off a peach tree and oak tree. Cut back all the raspberries and cleaned out one flower bed. But there is just so much more to do and I have to wonder how much longer I'll be able to do all this.
I find myself praying for a good night's sleep and no pain. It's what I need more than anything.
DW
Awake at 3:30 am yesterday morning as he was up sick.
It's been a repeat every day this past week.
And he is refusing to go get labs done. He won't call his doctor. He is sick to his stomach, diarrhea (and I'm so tired of cleaning toilets!) and nothing sounds good to eat. Except potato chips. :o)
Pretty certain the neuropathy has found it's way to his intestines. But of course since he won't go to the doc, we don't know.
I really try to be supportive. It's so hard.
I really try to show compassion. But when he refuses to take care of himself and now he refuses to call the doctor, it's even harder.
And I know I'm just exhausted. I try to catch little naps during the day when I can. But it's not the same. I sleep more on the sofa than I do in my bed.
And my own pain has returned. I'm sure it's because I'm not getting enough sleep. I am trying to stay as active as I can, but I hurt so bad. Today I managed to prune the apple tree, cut numerous limbs off a peach tree and oak tree. Cut back all the raspberries and cleaned out one flower bed. But there is just so much more to do and I have to wonder how much longer I'll be able to do all this.
I find myself praying for a good night's sleep and no pain. It's what I need more than anything.
DW
Wednesday, June 15, 2011
Diabetes Decor
I'm stealing a topic from a fellow blogger because I think it's important. I truly wish I had thought about this years ago.....but subconsciously I have been moving in this direction for the past 2 years. Considering all of hubby's medical conditions (open heart surgery, spinal fusion surgery, foot surgeries, gout surgeries)....I am slowly "decorating" our home for diabetes.
Let me explain.
We gave up our king size bed in exchange for 2 twin sized adjustable beds. After surgery, he was able to lift himself up out of bed by using the hydraulics on the bed and I did not physically have to assist him. More independence for him, less strain on my back.
We have a small party fridge and microwave in his closet in the MBR. He keeps his insulin and snacks there. I can get to them in a minute. Better than running downstairs in the middle of the night and risk breaking my neck....or his.
A huge 2' x 3' medicine cabinet on the wall in the bathroom filled with everything you can think of for open wounds, wound care, skin care, rashes, allergies, and so much more. This does not count the shelves of drugs for colds and flus, or his RX meds. Separate shelves and bins in his closet for all of his insulin test strips, needles, etc.
Hospital type bed trays that wheel under both beds to hold meds and other necessities that he needs multiple times a day.
Light weight corning ware in the kitchen because he has parkinson's and tends to drop things. Because they are so light, he can easily handle them. Gave up my wonderful china and stoneware - just too heavy for him. Paper plates, cups and bowls for everyday use as they are even easier for him to use.
Bathroom on the main floor - added those over the toilet shelves to hide toiletries that he uses on the main level. Pray that no one ever opens those doors! Seriously, where/how do you hide adult depends???
My decorative items now include a lot of boxes. Very pretty. No one would ever know they are anything but decorative. But they store loads of supplies, meds, depends, needles, etc....in a nice way. :o)
Febreeze air fresheners - the plug in types - in every room - to camoflauge the smells and odors. My sis says they do help.
The entry closet that should house coats now houses crutches, walkers, canes and the closet in the utility room is where I store the toilet seat lifts and bars.
I never ever thought my life would revolve to this, but it has. And when you need so much stuff, you have to have a way to store it and still make your home a home, not a hospital.
I did chuck everything in the master bath and buy everything white. I found it's easier to use bleach to get out stains and you don't have to worry about it fading colors if everything is white. Who knew I would actually like a totally white bath? Not just towels and washcloths, toothpaste holders and soap holder, but white wicker stands and shelves, white baskets and boxes. It actually looks nice and it's pretty easy to keep it all clean and white.
We sold most of our lamps and now have ott-lites or similar types that bend and go over the sofa so he can see to read wherever he sits. Not as attractive as decorative lamps....but really much more functional.
In our living room, we have 2 full size sofas and 2 recliners. He can go from a recliner to the sofa, from sitting to lying, as his pain increases and decreases. That leaves the other recliner for me and the other sofa for guests. My kitchen chairs are in the basement and rolling student type chairs are at the table because he says they are easier for him to get in and out of. I'm getting ready to put the wood chairs back because there are just some things I won't sacrifice!
One whole kitchen cabinet is filled with stuff that he needs on the main level during the day as he can no longer run up and down the stairs multiple times a day, and I'm not going to do it for him.
The grill was moved right beside the back door with a chair next to it. Disrupts the flow on the back deck, but makes it easier for him to do the grilling. Besides, we never eat outside anymore so who needs to get to the patio table? :o)
Wondering if anyone else has done diabetes decor in their homes.
DW
Let me explain.
We gave up our king size bed in exchange for 2 twin sized adjustable beds. After surgery, he was able to lift himself up out of bed by using the hydraulics on the bed and I did not physically have to assist him. More independence for him, less strain on my back.
We have a small party fridge and microwave in his closet in the MBR. He keeps his insulin and snacks there. I can get to them in a minute. Better than running downstairs in the middle of the night and risk breaking my neck....or his.
A huge 2' x 3' medicine cabinet on the wall in the bathroom filled with everything you can think of for open wounds, wound care, skin care, rashes, allergies, and so much more. This does not count the shelves of drugs for colds and flus, or his RX meds. Separate shelves and bins in his closet for all of his insulin test strips, needles, etc.
Hospital type bed trays that wheel under both beds to hold meds and other necessities that he needs multiple times a day.
Light weight corning ware in the kitchen because he has parkinson's and tends to drop things. Because they are so light, he can easily handle them. Gave up my wonderful china and stoneware - just too heavy for him. Paper plates, cups and bowls for everyday use as they are even easier for him to use.
Bathroom on the main floor - added those over the toilet shelves to hide toiletries that he uses on the main level. Pray that no one ever opens those doors! Seriously, where/how do you hide adult depends???
My decorative items now include a lot of boxes. Very pretty. No one would ever know they are anything but decorative. But they store loads of supplies, meds, depends, needles, etc....in a nice way. :o)
Febreeze air fresheners - the plug in types - in every room - to camoflauge the smells and odors. My sis says they do help.
The entry closet that should house coats now houses crutches, walkers, canes and the closet in the utility room is where I store the toilet seat lifts and bars.
I never ever thought my life would revolve to this, but it has. And when you need so much stuff, you have to have a way to store it and still make your home a home, not a hospital.
I did chuck everything in the master bath and buy everything white. I found it's easier to use bleach to get out stains and you don't have to worry about it fading colors if everything is white. Who knew I would actually like a totally white bath? Not just towels and washcloths, toothpaste holders and soap holder, but white wicker stands and shelves, white baskets and boxes. It actually looks nice and it's pretty easy to keep it all clean and white.
We sold most of our lamps and now have ott-lites or similar types that bend and go over the sofa so he can see to read wherever he sits. Not as attractive as decorative lamps....but really much more functional.
In our living room, we have 2 full size sofas and 2 recliners. He can go from a recliner to the sofa, from sitting to lying, as his pain increases and decreases. That leaves the other recliner for me and the other sofa for guests. My kitchen chairs are in the basement and rolling student type chairs are at the table because he says they are easier for him to get in and out of. I'm getting ready to put the wood chairs back because there are just some things I won't sacrifice!
One whole kitchen cabinet is filled with stuff that he needs on the main level during the day as he can no longer run up and down the stairs multiple times a day, and I'm not going to do it for him.
The grill was moved right beside the back door with a chair next to it. Disrupts the flow on the back deck, but makes it easier for him to do the grilling. Besides, we never eat outside anymore so who needs to get to the patio table? :o)
Wondering if anyone else has done diabetes decor in their homes.
DW
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